Last week I had coffee with a business friend who was affected by recent devastating floods. While she and many others were grateful for all the help they received, some things given to her created problems for her as the receiver and it is delicate stuff. Receiving is not always pleasure. Sometimes it is painful.

Here are four things to consider before you donate your unwanted clothes to another person or to a charity so that you give where it will do the most good and be the most appreciated.

Offer not Give
This can be painful. Mark Silver taught me the difference between these two words. When it comes to charity, we all feel that we are donating/giving from our hearts. We know that there are others less fortunate or poorer than us and we want to help. It makes us feel good to give and we want them to feel grateful for our generosity. Rejection is not part of our plan. » Read more: Donating Clothes! Pleasure or Pain?